It’s late and I’m tired – but I have to get this off my
chest.
I just turned the big 2-5!
I know I know…so old…
This past year I have felt so much pressure from people
about finding a husband.
But for once in my life…I am completely content with not
wanting just any man.
For once, I am not in the wrong relationship – and I have
never felt more at peace.
Everywhere I look people are either in love, falling in
love, or looking for someone to fall in love with!
Just recently I spent some time with one of my old friends
who is “searching” for that person that she will give her forever to. But it’s
sad to say, that she is “searching” in all of the wrong places. She has
convinced herself that she needs “practice” with relationships…and I’ve watched
her go from this strong independent woman, to someone who seems to be just
tossing herself at any guy who will give her attention…
(My point of this post is not to gossip AT ALL, but to show
any girl who is struggling with this…that no one should have to go out
“looking” for a relationship.)
Moving on…
On the opposite side…I have spent the past several days with
two of my dearest friends who have great men who they are utterly in love with.
One of them is married and she and her husband absolutely
adore each other.
The other friend is in a “dating” relationship and will most
likely be engaged by the end of the year. Her and her love are as smitten and
giddy as school children.
Instead of being jealous of these two love-couples, I am exceedingly
happy for the both of them. I LOVE hearing about how they are so in-love with
their men and how they have someone they can share everything with. And hearing
their stories only excites me more and more about one day having a similar love
of my own!
Just recently, a girl I know became engaged. One of my
friends asked me if this girls’ story gave me “hope” of finding someone. It may
sound like a funny question…and I guess it kind of was…but I just laughed. I
guess because this girl who recently became engaged, is around my age and her
and her fiancé just fell in-love completely unexpectedly…
But to say this story gave me “hope”…is an odd way of
explaining how it made me feel…
Perhaps it did in a way…
But even more so…it gave me insight…I guess it just
confirmed my belief that God DOES work in mysterious ways…and He has everything
under control and He knows what He is doing. And even more so…He has a plan…for
EVERYONE!
I have spent enough of my life wasting my heart and emotions
on the wrong man – wanting to believe that their “forever” was genuine and
true, rather than shallow with far-from-honorable intentions.
So to the 16-year-old who is just starting her “dating” life
and wanting to find Mr. Right…and to the 30-year-old who is lonely and sad and
feels discouraged…and to my dear friend who has sadly convinced herself that
she needs to throw herself at every guy who will talk to her and put herself
out there in order to “gain experience” with the opposite sex…
Don’t feed into the lies that it is “not so bad” to settle
for anything less than what you deserve.
Don’t listen to the people around you who tell you that you
need to “put yourself out there” in order to meet people and gain experience.
But don’t coop yourself up in your room and shut yourself
off from the world, giving up all hope that you are ever going to find someone.
Just be you and do what you truly want to do.
God will send someone your way in HIS perfect timing.
Trust me…if He can create you…He can control the events in
your life…
I don’t care what anyone else is telling you. You DESERVE to
be pursued.
There is NOTHING wrong with being “old-fashioned” and
letting the man make all the moves…he is, after all, supposed to be a “man”
correct?
And you deserve to be NUMBER ONE in a guys’ life. NOT second
best, plan b, or the re-bound.
And if you EVER are put in a situation where he makes you have
to wonder and question where you stand in his life (as far as his affections
for girls go) – take yourself out of the equation and wait for someone who will
never make you question his feelings for you and who will love you and respect
you just as much as you deserve to be loved and respected.
If a man doesn’t love you just as much as you love him, then
he is not worth any of your time. And trying to convince yourself that maybe
one day he will cherish you as much as you deserve, will only cause you more
pain and bitterness in the long run. Trust me…he is NOT worth it. And when all
is said and done…you will realize that…and you may be saddened that you allowed
him to have any of your time and heart.
So how can you know if a guy is “the one”?
PRAY! Seek guidance and council from the ONLY ONE who TRULY
knows your heart and his heart, and the only One who knows for certain what is
going to happen and what is best for you.
Pray that He will guard your heart and that no man will ever
be able to get to you unless he goes through Christ.
And pray that He takes away anyone who may hinder you or
distract you from what He has for you.
Then, the people who you start to see slip away from your
life, probably were not meant to be there in the first place. And the man who
continues to pursue you more and more…he may be the one who is deserving of
your heart. But NEVER STOP praying.
And remember – God is not a god of confusion, but of peace
and certainty.
And He wants and HAS the absolute best for you! So don’t
allow yourself to settle for someone who does not deserve you. Instead, save
every part of you, for a man who loves you more than you ever thought possible.
If God gives you an idea of an incredibly loving man…don’t
let Satan fool you into believing that there is “no such thing”…and don’t allow
yourself to become discouraged that you will never find him. If God gives you a
vision…then He WILL deliver. So just wait on Him. And don’t settle.
So am I worried that I am getting "too old" to find someone...or that I am running out of time and I need to find someone pronto??? NOT one bit...
Do I feel like I need to settle for someone who has proved to be undeserving or unworthy of my love just because I don't want to be alone...? HELL NO!!! (excuse my lingo!)
But do I feel encouraged by other people's "magical" and "unexpected" love stories? Sure, why not?! But better yet...God has a story just for ME! He has someone planned out for me and me alone! Something unique and unexplainable! And I will wait on Him...because He is the only One who has NEVER let me down. And His promises NEVER fail. And He will always put what is best for me first! And He has promised to do the EXACT SAME for YOU!
Okay…I think that was just about all that has been on my
heart…I just had to get that off of my chest =]
